We often tend to be harder on ourselves than anyone else is. Some individuals believe that by constantly criticizing themselves, they can achieve their goals. However, I question whether they are truly enjoying the process or if they are just fixated on reaching the end goal.
The key to happiness lies in progressing towards your desires, not just attaining them. Once you reach a dream, it’s essential to set a new one. This gives your mind something to look forward to, triggers the release of serotonin in the brain, and ultimately brings more joy into your life.
Summer is a perfect time to seek inspiration, whether you’re gearing up for a vacation or returning from one. Even if you’ve just enjoyed a trip, starting to plan your next adventure early keeps the excitement alive. Each plan or idea, no matter how small, acts as a source of pleasure and anticipation, leading to great results.
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The same philosophy applies to advancing in your career and relationships. Whether your goal is to secure a new job or transition to a different field, consistently making progress is crucial. Simply hoping for the right opportunity to come your way without actively working towards it will likely lead to disappointment. Regular steps towards your desired outcome, even if not daily, are essential.
While sending out resumes is pivotal in a job search, networking is equally important. Many individuals overlook this aspect, especially if they are currently employed. By putting yourself out there and connecting with people, you open doors to potential opportunities that you wouldn’t have encountered otherwise. Engaging in your community and industry will empower you and increase your chances of landing your dream job.
Similarly, waiting for the perfect partner to magically appear won’t lead you to a fulfilling relationship. It’s critical to put yourself in situations where you can meet new people who share common interests. Whether it’s striking up a conversation at the gym or participating in work-related events, proactive socializing can increase your chances of meeting someone special.
Successfully finding a job and a relationship requires consistent effort and action. While online dating platforms offer a convenient option, conducting a background check on potential dates is advisable. The process of seeking someone you connect with can be uplifting, even amidst occasional disappointments.
Ultimately, working towards your goals consistently will bring more happiness than passively waiting for them to materialize on their own.
Dr. Barton Goldsmith is a psychotherapist. You can reach him at Barton@bartongoldsmith.com.
